If only it were this easy…and, maybe it is… for everyone else. I don’t know why this is so hard for me. These are not my words, but I found them to be helpful–and I actually realized I knew this already, but they were a good reminder.
Five things to help you find your true calling.
1. It is not rational.
Don’t think about it too much. The more you think, the more you will fall into the trap of what is considered right for you (which is not what you are looking for).
Your dream doesn’t have to be something that society approves of. Often the real dreams are the ones considered “crazy, impossible ideas.” Impossible until you prove them wrong. That’s the fun part. Show people what you’re capable of!
But first things first: you have to believe in your dream with everything you have. No matter how crazy it might seem, just believe in it. Scientific studies have demonstrated that our brain is highly influenced by our attitude and positive thinking. Athletes, businessmen and successful people in general, use these techniques to “trick” their minds into success.
Believe that you will succeed and you’re half way there. I still remember when I started believing that I could really quit my job and travel the world—a fire started burning inside me and no one could stop me.
Imagine the same happening to you because anything is possible! Unless you’re a 100-year-old man and you want to become an astronaut, then (maybe) Houston, we have a problem! Otherwise, dare to dream big.
2. Discover your passions.
Everyone has passions and I bet you are no exception. It could be anything, from sports to video games, traveling to amazing destinations or even petting cats all day. The list goes on and on.
Passions are crucial factors to finding out your true calling. You might have many passions but there will always be one or two that win over the others.
All you have to do is to keep pursuing your passions.
The keyword here is fun. Don’t push yourself, take your time and the answers will come, often when they’re least expected.
3. The “no comparison” rule.
If there is only one piece of advice I could give, this is it.
Do not compare, under any circumstances, your life to other people’s lives. When you still don’t know what your path is, you might be tempted to copy whoever is (in your eyes) successful.
You are unique, with your emotions, struggles and everything that comes along with them. Comparing yourself to other people can lead you to think that you are not good enough. When you find out what you are really good at, none of this matters anymore.
I felt like a failure while I was working in the fashion industry, because it simply wasn’t something that I was passionate about. If you feel like I did, there is probably nothing wrong with you because you can’t be good at everything.
Find your strengths and forget about what other people are doing. You are good enough, you just need to find what makes you special, gives a new purpose to your life and never give up.
Einstein was considered mentally retarded by his teachers during his early years at school. Steve Jobs was fired from the company he had created and J.K. Rowling’s first book was rejected 30 times before she got a chance to publish it. What would have happened if they had given up, thinking that they were not good enough?
They are no different from us, they simply found their own path, stood up after each failure and tried again.
4. Find your own voice.
Don’t do something just because a friend suggested it: find your voice.
While others might seem to have their lives under control, don’t be fooled even if you feel like you are left “behind” because you still have to figure out what you want. You don’t know what they are experiencing. You are not them.
“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.” ~ Oscar Wilde
5. When you know, you know.
Finding your calling is similar to falling in love. When it happens, everything brightens up.
You will feel more alive than ever and you will start thinking about a plan to bring your dream into reality. Suddenly, the idea that looked crazy for years now looks very achievable. You will start to think in very creative ways and you’ll be as excited as a kid in a toy store before Christmas.
You’ll find solutions that you never thought were possible.
Clelia Mattana From Elephant